Chelsee

Hi, Chelsee. Thank you very much for your time today. It's always a pleasure to have a chat with magical people like yourself, and I look forward to hearing your story. We always start with the question: Who is Chelsee? Anything that comes to mind in this moment.

Chelsee is honest... Chelsee is someone who thinks outside of the box and goes for things that people might initially see as scary or uncomfortable. She follows her intuition. She is scared but does it anyway when it comes to things that are outside of the norm.

Chelsee is the light that shines so people can see where they need to work on themselves but also where they are really powerful, and what they are capable of.

I am an intuitive healer. I have two beautiful children. I grew up in Auckland, New Zealand, and I struggled with a lot of limiting beliefs - things that I have now overcome. There are still some there, but obviously, I am evolving every single day. I think that gives insight into who Chelsee is.  

Beautiful. How have your home, family values, and upbringing impacted your journey?

I was born in South Auckland. I was brought up by a single mother and also my father.

My father was there but had his own struggles, I guess… Okay, I'll just say it: he struggled with alcoholism and addiction, and it really impacted my ability to have my voice heard and for me to trust my voice. I was shut down quite a lot. But there was also a positive side - he would play games with me and have fun, and that was really beautiful as well. I guess I was mostly emotionally impacted by the alcohol and the addictions rather than experiencing the physical impacts that many others go through.

And then my mother was obviously a single mother who later met her partner, my brother's dad. They were together for quite a few years before they broke up. So I was surrounded by a lot of love - there was a lot of love there. But also a lot of conditioning around how men are with women, how women are with men, and how relationships and friendships should look. Yeah, just a lot of confusion around all of that.

In regard to what I'm doing now, I grew up being told that I have really healing hands, and I thought that meant I was really good at massage (laughs) and that I would go into massage therapy. But now that I am older, I know that is not the case. Obviously, we can speak about that in other questions I'm sure you have, but in regard to my background and upbringing and how they affected me, there were really beautiful parts, and then there were really shitty parts, as I know everyone has. Because when you think about the law of polarity - the negative and positive poles - in order to create balance in life, both need to exist.

I experienced sexual abuse from family and extended family, like friends of family. And for so long, I played the victim to that. It was the “Poor me. I experienced this” mindset, and for some, it might be triggering if I say that I was in a victim mindset. Because, of course, I was a victim. I was the survivor. I was, you know, the person who went through that. But as I evolve, heal, and grow, I see that I allowed my circumstances to define me. I played the victim to my circumstances.

And so now, doing healing work, I feel a deep connection, knowing, and understanding within my body and soul. I feel like I needed to experience the disconnect - and I'm not condoning the behaviour, obviously - but I feel like I needed to experience the lack of control and autonomy over my body in order to truly know what connection and intuition feel like within me. That has been my growth and healing in that aspect of my life, because it impacted me for so long.

When it came to men, friendships, and relationships, I would always put others first - their needs, what they wanted. I felt like in order to have a partner, I had to place the man’s needs before my own. 

And I guess some would say I had daddy issues, if you will (laughs). But when I say that, I mean that I didn't have a very good relationship with the masculine or the feminine within myself. I lacked balance in my energy, which affected the people I attracted. Because I was in a victim mindset about what I had experienced, I attracted people who treated me poorly. And I had my part to play too - it wasn’t just them. We all have our part to play. I was attracting people who matched the vibration I was at.

Now, I get to attract beautiful energies and leave those past relationships behind because I have chosen to release the victim mentality around my experiences. Plus, I’ve done a whole bunch of inner work (laughs). But ultimately, releasing that mindset has allowed me to receive what I have now, and my past does not have the hold on me that it once did.

Thank you for sharing this - it’s very empowering. Your awareness and the journey you’ve taken to reach this point are truly inspiring. What are your biggest strengths?

My biggest strengths? I used to struggle to name any or would only think of one, whereas now, when you just asked me this, I was about to say, I have so many (laughs).

I love it!

So that’s really beautiful and a great reflection of my growth as well. One of my greatest strengths is my ability to shine light on areas of life - whether in myself or in others - that might be uncomfortable but are necessary to acknowledge for healing and growth. Even if it’s initially confronting, I can highlight things people might not see, whether negative or positive. Some might find this too upfront at first, but later, they often come back and say, “Thank you so much for pointing that out. I didn’t even realize it was there, but because you highlighted it, I was able to work through it.” The same applies to myself - I notice things in me that I may not like, but I don’t shy away from them.

Another strength I take pride in is creating a safe, judgment-free space where people can be their authentic selves. Of course, as humans, we all have judgments at times, but when I’m intentional - whether in my healing practices, friendships, or other connections - I always strive to provide a space where people feel safe to be vulnerable and express themselves without fear of being put down. 

Beautiful. What are your weaknesses?

Right now, the biggest one that stands out is trusting others too quickly and not setting clearer boundaries from the start. I think that’s part of life - learning and growing - but because I genuinely want to help people, sometimes my boundaries get crossed.

I don’t see trusting people as the issue. My weakness is when I get a clear sign that someone doesn’t have my best interests at heart, but I still think, It’s okay, everything will be fine. While there’s beauty in that mindset, it’s still a weakness (laughs), and something I’m working on.

Love it. What are you most proud of?

Honestly, I’m most proud of where I am right now, in this moment. If anyone knew me seven or eight years ago - or even before that - it’s not that I wasn’t a good person; I was, but I was unhealed. And with that came a lot of people-pleasing, justifying my actions, and trying to fit in with people who weren’t truly aligned with me.

I was anxious, depressed, and suicidal. I didn’t know where I wanted to go or what I wanted to do. I was drinking every weekend - Friday and Saturday nights. I was so anxious I couldn’t even handle basic household chores like doing the laundry or cleaning my room. I felt lost, but at the time, I thought I was just having fun. It wasn’t until later that I realized I was using alcohol as a way to escape from things I needed to work on.

I wasn’t necessarily drinking to forget, but I now see that I spent so much time and energy going out, drinking, and trying to please others that I wasn’t dedicating that energy to myself. That’s what I mean when I say I was using alcohol - I was distracting myself instead of focusing on my own healing.

But now? My main priority is healing, evolving, and focusing on myself. I want people to tell me how I’ve affected them - whether positively or negatively - because that feedback helps me grow. I want to keep evolving, improving, and doing better. And I’m really proud of that. Because a lot of people stay stuck. And that’s one thing I haven’t done. And I’m so proud of that.

That's very inspiring. What has motherhood taught you?

Oh, this is the question (laughs). I might even get a little bit emotional. First off, I am still learning. I am not a perfect mum. I just do what feels right, and I mess up so often. But if it wasn't for my daughter, my firstborn child, I probably would never (cries)...  have started to work on myself and heal parts of myself and want to learn more and do better if it wasn't for her. I truly believe that she came into my life to show me that I can have my own back, and I can have her back as well. I have another daughter too, she was born two years later, so now hers too. So yeah, I can have my own back. I can have theirs. I'm not going to be perfect. We can learn together - to stand up for what I actually believe in and what I believe to be true, whether it is true or not, but actually following my feeling state and my knowing that I know what's right for me and my babies. 

And you know, an example of that is when my first baby was born, we are conditioned to believe that vaccinations are what will save you and save your child. This is in no way meant to push my opinions or beliefs onto anyone else, but when my child was born, I started to investigate because, you know, when you're younger, you just get vaccinations, and that's normal, and that happens, and everything's fine. I don't even think my mom thought for two minutes about checking into what's inside those vaccinations. And I mean, obviously, I'm fine. Everything's fine with me. But when I researched and looked into things, I found that there was a lot of stuff inside vaccinations that isn't necessarily great for our babies, and I'm not okay with that.

That was one of the first things that I really had to stand my ground on - to see who would respect that and who wouldn’t, thinking I'm crazy or delusional and leaving my space. It was one of those first moments in life where you stand up for yourself and realize, “Oh, okay, that person wasn't meant to be here, and that's okay.” And also, these people are still here, even though they don't believe the same thing - which I don't expect anyone to - but they respect my opinion and my belief when it comes to my children and myself.

That has extended far beyond what I can really explain in this interview. But to be able to have your own back and stand firm in your beliefs, while being open to changing your perspective - if you feel like that intuitive knowing is saying, “Please don’t do this. This is not okay.” then following that is important. I think becoming a mother really helped me with that.

Please tell us more about what you do.

I am an intuitive healer. What I do is awaken the healer inside of you. Again, this is my opinion and my belief. I feel that there are a lot of people out there with healing businesses, which are really beautiful and amazing. They are clearly helping people, but a lot of what they've learned is a method of doing something that is based on someone else's perspective. 

If we're speaking about Reiki as an example, I feel like there's a lot of people these days - and I say this based on my experience, not as a fact - who have an experience with Reiki, for example, get really excited about it, and then decide they want to do it too. They go into actually practicing it themselves without checking whether it's the right time for them to be in that space. I had to learn that.

The main words I want to emphasize here are harness and follow intuition. Harness what is actually there. Yes, you might have received that download, thinking, “Oh, I want to do this. I want to do healing.” And that's beautiful. Don't let go of that. But don't just say, "Okay, now I'm going to learn how to do Reiki," because that might not have been the specific guidance meant for you - to do Reiki in the traditional way. And this is nothing against Reiki. Reiki is a beautiful experience for those who practice it.

But it might have just been a small insight, a little moment from Source, showing you a glimpse of what you could do. So, harness that energy and move into that space with awareness. That’s really part of what I do - teaching people to follow their intuition and what feels right for them, while also checking back in with themselves and harnessing the energy, rather than rushing into it.

It's like when someone learns something new and immediately wants to share it with everyone. That excitement is beautiful - I’ve experienced that too. But just stop for a second, take a breath, and slow down. It's not about not following your guides and intuition. It’s about checking within yourself first, asking, Is now the right time? Not because of external factors like time, money, or location, but because of where you are internally. Have you healed yourself to a point where you can support others in their process, or are you still going through your own?

We are always healing, but there are checkpoints within yourself where you can recognize whether you are ready to hold space for others.

So, what I do has many parts, but one aspect is teaching people to awaken the healer within themselves if they feel called to work in that space. Another part is working directly with clients through healing sessions.

Now, as I've said, I don't claim to heal people. I say I'm an intuitive healer, but I want to reframe what that title means. I don’t know what else to call it right now, but essentially, I sit with people and create a safe, judgment-free space for energy to be released. This stored energy - whether from trauma, hurtful words, or deep emotional pain - gets held in the body. My role is to facilitate the release of that energy.

But I don’t do it alone. I work with the person. If they are willing to receive it, I help awaken their ability to release it, allowing their guides, my guides, and both of us to work collaboratively to heal parts of the body and let go of that stored energy. Because we can do all the mindset work in the world - healing through thoughts, emotions, and inner work - but we often forget about the body. That’s where I come in. I support the process holistically.

There’s a lot more to it, but that’s the best way I can explain the different moving parts of what I do.

It's a very wise and beautiful approach. Thank you for sharing. How do you keep connected with yourself?

I think consistency is the word that's coming to mind. It doesn't need to look a certain way. It doesn't need to have a routine… Routine is nice; routine keeps you accountable, but you don't need to have a routine or set way of doing something. The word consistency, for me in this context, is what's there if I'm every day consistently doing something out of the long list of things you could do. That's how I'm connecting with myself.

That could be one time per day when I catch myself having a limiting belief. I caught myself, I celebrated the fact that I caught that, and then I shifted that and rewired that belief by choosing a different perspective. That's one way I connect with myself.

Another way I connect with myself is by working with others and healing in the healing space. Because in supporting others, I notice things about myself. I notice where I'm telling them to do something. Am I also doing that? Am I also checking back in with myself and doing what I'm speaking out with others? Yeah, going outside, meditating, visualization, that's all part of it. But again, I don't have a specific thing. All I am is consistent with shifting, evolving, and working on myself and acknowledging parts of myself every single day. Anyone that you would speak to about me will literally say that I am always working on myself (laughs), and I don't see that as a negative thing. Because even though people could say “you need to have fun” and “you need to do this and that,” like, yeah, that's cool, and I can recognize that as I'm working on myself and as I'm being consistent. Because I would rather be consistent in what I'm doing, in regards to the healing process of myself and my trauma, conditioning, and connecting to self and the feminine and the masculine within me - I would rather be consistent every single day working on that, rather than, you know, being really unconscious for a month, and then something massive happens, and it really throws me and affects me. Whereas now, if things happen, I've been so consistent with connecting to myself every single day that when major things happen, I still get affected, and I still might cry or all of that, but it doesn't throw me for so long, and I can bring myself back, and I can see a different perspective a little easier than what I could have previously. So hopefully, that answered the question (laughs).

Absolutely. How do you recharge?

Um, I actually really love people and being around people, but depending on the person's energy, I can feel myself getting a little bit lower. So I was going to say I recharge by being around people, but I think actually, now that I'm saying it out loud, I recharge in the solace and the stillness and peace and quiet, where I can just breathe. No one's expecting anything from me. I can just be by myself. Yeah, I think solace is how I recharge. There's nothing specific that I do, but just whatever it is, where I can just have a moment to breathe and be by myself.

What brings you the greatest joy?

Now, I know I'm a mum (laughs), and obviously my children, I love them, and they make me so happy. They will always be the happiest part of my journey. 

And also, what brings me the most joy is when I can help others and when I can experience their wins because of things that I've mentioned or noticed, and they're like, “This is amazing. This has changed my whole life.” And it's not from an ego perspective. It's because it feels like it's healing parts of myself that once were the version that they are, if that makes sense. And so when I'm giving advice or giving some healing to someone or shining light on an area of their life, it gives me so much joy when they come back and say, “That really, really helped me,” because I once was that version of them, or a little part of that is how I used to act. And so it's kind of like me also helping that past version of myself, too. So it makes me so happy when I get to help people.

Beautiful. What do you value in people the most?

Ooh, I value integrity, communication and honesty. Well, let's say all three of those kind of connect. So, as an example, I'm okay if you just don't want to hang out with me because you can't be bothered, and that's okay with me. What I'm not okay with is, “Oh, sorry, I have this on and this on and that on, and I can't,” when really you're sitting at home, lying on your couch, scrolling on your phone, or hanging with someone else. That’s what I don't like or agree with. It doesn't feel right to me, because we have to justify ourselves a lot in this world, and I know that that's where that comes from. People are not comfortable when someone isn't okay with their reaction. So, let's just say someone did say to me, “Hey, I really can't be bothered to be around people today, and I'm so sorry.” Yes, there's a part of my ego that's going to be like, “Oh, heartbreaking. They don't want to be around me", you know, "but I'm such a loving, amazing person". But it's not personal. It's actually just them needing some space, because that's okay. And even if someone didn't vibe with me as a human or as someone they wanted to consistently be around or have as a friend, then just tell me that. And yes, it's going to hurt my ego, but I'd rather you be honest than me sitting here asking you and putting effort and time into a friendship that I think is there. I'd rather know where I stand than have my time and energy wasted as well.

But also, that then comes back to myself, and I'm always checking myself to make sure I'm being in my integrity, I'm communicating, and I'm being honest too, in a really beautiful, loving way - not just angry and harsh, you know? Approaching it in a really beautiful way. But that's what I value most in people, and that was my example.

If you could give a piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be?

So many. It would definitely be something around other people not liking me or not wanting to be around me. I think I would say to my younger self, feel the feeling of being let down, but then release those feelings and move forward, because nothing is personal. Everyone is acting from their own trauma and their own triggers, and nothing is ever a personal attack on you. Even though you might not really understand that right now in this moment, you will always understand that as you get older. You will continue to understand what that actually means. But for now, just know that nothing is personal. Everything is someone else's projection or trigger, a trauma response, depending on what the situation is. But no one is ever intentionally trying to attack you personally. It's always something from within them.

And to add to that, too, I would say everything is a mirror reflection of yourself. So if you don't like it, or if you don't like what's happening, then you need to check within yourself and see what this is bringing up for you.

Do you have some advice for you today?

My advice for myself today is: you know exactly what you need to do… Do it (both laugh).

I love it. And the last question for today - do you have a motto?

I think that my motto, and the thing that I always speak into, is - I've sort of mentioned it - always follow your feeling state. Be consistent. And nothing is personal.

It's a great summary. Thank you so much.

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