Thank you very much for your time today, Juliette. You're such a beautiful soul and I look forward to hearing your story. To start with, could you tell us a little bit about yourself? Any things that come to mind.
Well, it's hard to define who I am because I'm always evolving and changing. But I think these last few years, I’ve removed a lot of layers; layers that come from education, society and everyone’s expectations. I can feel now I'm really becoming myself. A very kind, wild, and independent soul. Now I feel really powerful…unstoppable. I feel I am full of potential and that I am enough.
So yeah, all these feelings that I'm experiencing I really want to share with other women, I want them to feel the same. So that's why I'm doing all the work I am doing. Because I have become who I am - a mom, an independent businesswoman and more - I'm trying to spread it everywhere.
You mentioned a lot of layers that were put on you by society, would you mind saying a bit more about it?
When I was a kid my parents, my school, and society in general, were expecting me to be a good girl: to behave, and to be a good student. I was always trying to do the right thing.
Those layers were very heavy, they were conditioning me a lot. We can talk about that for hours. It was basically about not being enough. Feeling I was doing everything wrong. I was too loud, too noisy and too powerful as well. I was a rebel, I was wild. And in my country, kids are very shut down like “calm down, we don't want to hear you much”. You feel like you don't have a voice. You're not a person if you’re a kid.
Then I discovered that, actually, there is no right or wrong way of doing things. This is just my way to do it. And I'm really different from others. I'm a pioneer in many subjects in life, and that's okay. I'm not doing things the way other people do, I want to show how else this can be done and people can choose whether they want to try it or not. At least I'm inspiring others to do things differently, even if they decide not to do it the same way.
I definitely get what you mean, I guess we all develop similar layers while we are growing up.
It was hard to remove all that. But it gave me such power. I can see many people from beautiful healthy families. They are cool, they are nice, but they don't have this backing power inside their tummy. I’ve got this anger in me that I can transform into beautiful things. And I'm so grateful to have that, actually.
Dipping more into it, where do you think your strength comes from?
I think my strength comes from my emotions. I thought before it was a weakness to be sensitive. I thought it was something that was stopping me because I was too vulnerable, too soft. And now I feel like that's such a power to be connected to my emotions. Because emotions mean intuition, and intuition is my wisdom. Nobody except me knows what is best for me. Now I believe this is my strength: I can connect to my emotions without shame, without feeling weak. And it gives me such power.
What are your weaknesses?
It’s evolving. At the moment I'm learning to put love into that, I'm trying to embrace the duality of this world: it’s light, but it’s also dark. I had refused for so many years my dark side. I was like “no, I am full of love, I am full of kindness”. And I am, but I also have weaknesses, I have a dark side like everybody else.
The more I embrace it, the more I feel powerful. But it's not easy, we don't usually want to see such aspects of ourselves. So I will say my weakness is my anger. When I don't transform it correctly, it can bring me down. Coming back to the layers we discussed, it is the feeling of not being enough, when I want to be the best, to be the chosen one, I want to be seen. But the good thing is, as I know it, I can notice when the inner child wants to be seen. Then I say “okay, let's not just work on others, let's give that to myself”.
That's my main weakness. But I'm human, I have others. I'm impatient. I love when things are moving and evolving. I am pretty bad at waiting. But it's part of life. There are different seasons, different cycles in life and sometimes, when it's winter inside me, I need to slow down and I'm getting better at it.
Winter inside you? What does it mean?
It's like when nothing is happening, when everything slows down. And I think when it comes, we are so raw, so close to ourselves. And you are like “Oof, do I want to see that? Do I want to sit down with myself and check in with this pain?”. So we rush through life. We do all these different things just to avoid our feelings, to avoid seeing the big picture.
But when we don't do it for a long time, it comes on us, anyway. I'm getting better at it, but it heavily depends on my cycle. Some weeks I feel really like “Yes. Let's do it. Let's do the job”. And some days, I feel alone and then I don't want to stay by myself to check what's dirty, what's still in process.
Very interesting. That's a really good way to put it. I felt winter yesterday, but it got to spring quickly and now it’s summer already (laughs).
Yeah, it can change every day. I feel women are so fluctuant. In one day it can be winter in the morning and summer at night. We are so magical, we're changing depending on the people around us, on news we receive, you know?
That's true. But I think that men are also like that, as long as they allow themselves to feel it.
That's true. Everyone has both feminine and masculine inside themselves, and the more men are connected to their feminine part, the more they are fluctuant as well. But they don't usually have this knowledge, so they have no idea how to deal with it.
That brings us to the next question. I know you as a very spiritual person. When did you discover spirituality and what led you to this journey?
I think I was always spiritual, but I shut it down because I was not surrounded by magical people and it was scary. So I think it started when my son was born six years ago. Then I really dived into it. I didn't have a choice. He's very, very magical and special, and he just brought me with him. As a kid, he could see spirits and he could hear things. It was during Covid and I couldn't ask for help. So I needed to understand what was happening. It was scary, I really stepped into something out of my comfort zone but I'm so glad it happened. Because it's a journey together. And we have had it so many times - we have had so many soul contracts and were together in many past lives. And in this one, I initially thought I was guiding him, but actually it’s the opposite - he is guiding me. So I really dived into spirituality because of that.
I think being a mom brings me such instability so that I find my stability. I don't know how to explain it but to give birth, to create life - it is so powerful. You are so close to death, so close to life. There are no more dramas about small things. This is so important that the rest doesn't count. We are getting back to roots, back to our authenticity. And I think this is spirituality. It is coming back to yourself, to what's happening around us and to how we are connected to each other. You ask yourself “Why are we here? What are we going to do?”. As parents we ask “What is my mission?”. It impacts you a lot.
I know you are a lightworker. Do you mind explaining to us what this means?
For me being a lightworker is not just being kind and full of love. For me, working for the light means being fair. Every decision in life has pros and cons, every situation. You can't be perfect for everyone. And I have discovered recently that it doesn't matter what choices I make - there's always going to be someone disappointed here or there. And I try my best to be kind, but that's not exactly the goal when you're a lightworker. The goal is to help people to evolve and to find themselves. I’ll give you an example. If I have a friend who is completely blind to what's happening to their life, I don't want to just comfort this person. I will be like “You’ve f*cked it up”. I will point it out and will do it very kindly, but it is going to be painful. But I will help my friend to open up and to become aware of what's happening.
When we show only kindness, it is because we want to be loved. I'm not here to be loved, I'm here to change things. And I think this is what lightworkers are. We do show the most love and kindness we can, but this is not the main thing.
You have already mentioned your business and your mission. Would you mind telling us more about it?
My business is evolving all the time. I'm a therapist. I am guiding people and helping them to understand things about themselves. I'm highlighting the path for them so they can see it better and can handle it by themselves. I work a lot with women. I don't know why, but they are coming to me. So that's my speciality.
I'm also organizing retreats for women with one of my friends. A year ago, I started dance therapy as well, during my retreats. Soon I will start doing it separately – I am launching dance therapy classes.
That's amazing!
Yes, I am building that, because I'm also a dance teacher in bachata. And I think it's time to remove this impostor syndrome and dive into it and add more dancing into my business because it's really my thing. I am not the best in every move, but I don't try to achieve perfection. My goal is to reach authenticity, to reach connection. And I want people to feel better. For that I don't need to be perfect. So yeah, this year is about adding dancing into my business life.
Beautiful, I look forward to seeing it. What makes you happy?
I know that I'm happy when I feel it in my body. I get this sharp feeling of enthusiasm and sometimes it doesn't really make sense, but I try to listen to it.
What makes me happy.. it can be anything. It is really easy for me to be happy. It can be a flower or... a butterfly, it can be good news or a lunch with a friend. It can be the sound of music… I'm really connected to things which are natural and authentic.
But I think the most amazing thing which gives me happiness is feeling people. I'm meant for it - to meet people, to be close to them, to feel connected. And I think my purest joy is when I'm working with someone or when I talk to a friend and I feel this person, I have keys for them. So I'm giving them something, I'm planting a seed and I can see how it's impacting their life. The realization that this is my path nourishes me a lot.
And what is love to you?
I think love is the desire for the other one to be happy. Doesn't matter the circumstances, it doesn't matter if we are close, if we are seeing each other. Love is just about “I want you to be happy. If it's with me, it's amazing. If it's not with me, it's okay.”
Love is always full of conditions in this world. And I'm human, so sometimes I have conditions as well. I have my limits of what I can have, what I can accept or what I want to receive. But I'm trying my best to get close to unconditional love. I learn to accept people as they are even when they have a different concept of love.
Love is such an abstract subject. My way of seeing love is not the same as someone else’s. And I can’t say to them “This is love and I want you to love me this way”. So, I really try to see through the eyes of other people and to find my own way.
So, I think I will be able to answer this question at the end of my life (laughs). For now, it's about tolerance and acceptance, because love is the only subject we can't understand. We can't explain it. That's why it's so beautiful and magical.
Do you have a role model or source of your inspiration?
Oh, I have so many, but I don't have just one, because everybody is imperfect. Perfect yet imperfect at the same time. I've got inspiration from a bit of everywhere on many subjects. But the women around me - my friends, my tribe - they are such amazing people. My son as well, but mostly women. I feel so grateful. They are so strong, so brave - I am in love with them. This is my inspiration every day - to see women changing the world and being brave to try. And even if people around are not happy, it is such courage.
Beautiful. Do you have a motto or quote that guides your everyday life?
I have so many, but one came to my mind, so maybe I need to share this one. It's about love and abundance which is pretty much the same. It's from Rumi and it goes “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” It’s always here. It’s just that we build resistance, we build walls. And we just need to remove those in order to feel it.
Every day I try to observe myself and ask “Why? Why is it not working? What are you doing, why are you self sabotaging things to not have access to love?”. Because in fact it's all about me blocking things. Life is always giving me what I want.
And to finish up, what is the most exciting thing that you're looking forward to this year?
So many things. I look forward to seeing how my dance project evolves. I look forward to seeing how my relationships evolve, because the past few years were full of learning. I met a lot of amazing souls, very different, and I learned a lot of things about men and about myself. Now I want to try to be stable and to welcome healthy connections. So I really look forward to seeing how it unfolds.
Thank you so much.
*Since our interview, Juliette has successfully launched her new beautiful project, Nexus Dance (Instagram: @nexusdanceschool)
